A Guide to Sex with an Ostomy
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My (ex) boyfriend (don’t worry, we’re still friends) and I discuss sex and relationships…having IBD and an ostomy! We try to answer the burning sexual questions without making it too awkward for anybody.
Before we get started, let’s cut to the chase and let it be known that for most ostomates, a stoma has little effect over the ability to enjoy sex, regardless of sexual preferences or lifestyle before surgery.
Sexuality and ostomy are complex subjects with many facets: the physical, emotional, and psychological pressures are major influences in ones’ life. Let’s break down these issues down to discuss the physical considerations (both after surgery and ongoing) and then the psychological and emotional considerations for sex and ostomy.
There are many potential physical issues with sex within the first few months after surgery for a new ostomate. Depending on the type of surgeries done, medications administered, and what parts were affected is going to determine the viability of your sex life. But most of the anxieties of post-surgery ostomates about sex are alleviated after a few months and most find they can have sex just the same as before they had their surgery.
Some of the issues faced by post-op ostomates are:
1) Initial anxiety due to physical changes & fear of injury
2) Feelings of loneliness or a sense of rejection
3) Inability to achieve an erection / lubrication / orgasm.
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